"Judy Dunn has the happy knack of helping us to look afresh at the children we thought we knew - including our own. Her new book shows that in the context of friendship, children have an opportunity - from kindergarten upward - to go on imaginary adventures, to engage in give-and-take and, eventually, to learn about commitment in ways that the immediate family can rarely match. We glimpse children at their best in this delightful book - and sympathize all the more with those children who want to make friends but have none." <i>Paul</i> <i>Harris, Harvard Graduate School of Education</i> <br /> <p>"This magical new book by Judy Dunn explores the development of friendships in young children. She draws on close observation of toddlers, pre-schoolers and school children to demonstrate the role of intimate friendships in encouraging children to share ideas, coordinate pretend play and express affection for those that are not kin. This book will inform the practice of professionals who care for young children and intrigue parents – who will see immediately how the friendships of their own children are the spur to imagining what’s in the mind and heart of another." <i>Kathy Sylva, Professor of Educational Psychology, University of Oxford</i><br /> </p> <p>"Judy Dunn, one of our most astute chroniclers of children's social lives, provides a fascinating glimpse into the often neglected world of children's friendships. Using real-life illustrations from her own studies as well as rich insights from novelists and biographers, she convincingly shows the important place of friends in children's development. Parents as well as professionals will learn much from this timely and readable volume." <i>Ross D. Parke, Director, Center for Family Studies, University of California Riverside</i><br /> </p> <p>"<i>Children's Friendships</i> is a beautifully written account of children's early friendships by Judy Dunn, the leading international authority on childhood development." <i>Primary Times, 29th Nov - 7th Feb 2005</i><br /> </p> <p>"The excitement, the pleasures, problems and humour, the compelling intensity of these relationships with friends (and enemies) in writers' early lives and their fiction are interwoven in <i>Children's Friendships</i> with the present-day examples from the children in Dunn's research and that of others." <i>SirReadaLot.org, January Issue.</i></p>
- accessible and comprehensive book on friendship, beautifully written by a world authority;
- features a foreword by Jerome Bruner, one of the most influential psychologists alive today;
- stresses the importance of friendships to young children and considers the implications of friendship for our understanding of children’s development more generally;
- draws out the practical implications for parents, teachers and those who care for children;
- considers how to help children with friendship difficulties and what to do about 'trouble-making' friendships and bullying;
- latest addition to the Understanding Children’s Worlds series.
Foreword vi
Jerome S. Bruner
List of figures viii
Acknowledgements ix
1. Friends matter 1
2. Beginnings 12
3. Friends within a social world: the early years 34
4. Differences in children’s friendships: links with social understanding 48
5. With a little help from my friends 69
6. Intrigues, bullying, rejection and loneliness 82
7. Girls, boys and friendship 99
8. Parents and Friends 119
9. Siblings and Friends 142
10 Implications 155
Appendix: How can parents help children over friendship difficulties? 161
Notes 165
References 179
Name index 199
Subject Index 201