In a rut? Follow Addie Sewell's 10-step plan! 1. Refuse to be the Scary Cat Lady. Don't buy a cat. 2. Step out of your comfort zone. 3. Use a friend's wedding to start your New Spontaneous Life. 4. Prepare to seduce The One Who Got Away (TOWGA). 5. Avoid Derek Bates. Sure, he's hot…but he's not why you're here! 6. Seriously. Stop looking at Derek like he's sex-on-a-stick. 7. Seduce TOWGA by slipping into his bed naked. (You can do it!) 8. Don't panic—you accidentally ended up in Derek's bed instead. 9. Okay, maybe you're enjoying being in Derek's bed a little too much. But he does feel really, really incredible. 10. Abort plan. Just go with it.