Contents Foreword by Dr Kathryn Mannix Introduction 1 First Steps: Jimmy Edmonds 2 Continuing bonds: Jimmy Edmonds 3 Running thoughts: Jane Harris 4 When words are all we have: Jane Harris 5 Letters to a son: Sophie Pierce 6 Impossible words: Jo Bousfield 7 Reframing grief: Jimmy Edmonds 8 Loved and lost: Simon Bray 9 What remains: Jimmy Edmonds 10 Studio wall: Gillian Melling 11 A brush with grief: Lize Kruger 12 L'Accordeon de la Memoire: Cassie Toulouse 13 Out of time: Jimmy Edmonds 14 A doodle a day: Gary Andrews 15 Celebrating Laoise: Deirdre Nolan 16 Grief, craft and nature: Jim Clabon 17 A scintillating space: Sangeeta Mahajan 18 On social media: Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds 19 Stronger than my love: Jessica Carmody Nathan 20 Active grief: Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds 21 Secret waters: Jimmy Edmonds 22 Sea soul: Ruth Fitzmaurice 23 Just keep swimming: Billie Oliver 24 To breathe again: Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds Ten things we have learned Resources and further reading

'This is a book about sorrow, yet it is brimming with hope. This is a book about loss, but it overflows with love and generosity. The community of bereaved people is as diverse as humanity itself, and this book is a gathering of their wisdom, guided and curated by the creative talents and parental grief of Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds.' Dr Kathryn Mannix, author of With the End in Mind and Listen; 'In the absence of any collective rituals or words with which to express their loss, this wonderful and very personal book offers those who find themselves in an agonising wilderness of grief, a kind of creative map to find a way out of the isolation.' Juliet Stevenson, Actor; 'When Words Are Not Enough shows us that searing loss isn't necessarily the end, but a possible beginning. It's an exploration with whatever means one has at one's disposal - visual arts, the written word, even wild swimming - to mark, mourn, remember, salve and to create a tangible from a loss, some order from the arbitrary.' Greg Wise, Actor; 'The word I keep coming back to with this book is beautiful, not a word I would usually associate with grief. But this book is rich in detail and compassion, it is authoritative and kind. Through their immense loss and pain Jane and Jimmy have done an extraordinary thing and redefined grief as love turned inside out. They make grief less scary. I have not read a better book on grief.' Annalisa Barbieri, The Guardian; 'When Words are Not Enough offers that rarest of bereavement resources - a visual and verbal feast and a sustained look into the heart of grief that both acknowledges the raw anguish of tragic loss and invites the reader to share a fascinating and varied gathering of responses to it. I recommend it highly to all those who mourn, and all those who strive to accompany them through the experience.' Prof Robert Neimeyer, Director, Portland Institute for Loss and Transition; 'When Words Are Not Enough opens up new ways of thinking and talking about grief as a creative, generative 'state of being' which transforms who we are and how we see the world. The result is moving and important - and a beautiful testament to love.' Dr Lesel Dawson, Associate Professor in Literature and Culture, University of Bristol; "Such an inspiring book - full of moving stories of people who have found active ways to respond to their grief, from photography through to (my favourite) cold-water swimming. Jane and Jimmy's ten 'lessons learned' about the loss of their child wisely reject any idea of 'moving on' or 'closure'. Indeed, this beautifully designed creation is itself an example of what the book is all about." Prof Sir David Spiegelhalter, Statistician, University of Cambridge